"What is the point of casual sex if the sex part isn't any good?" Ms. Shalit asks, quoting former sex columnist Amy Sohn. It's a question many girls are asking. On one sex-ed site, the number one topic for girls is how to refuse a boyfriend's request for sex without losing the boyfriend. ...
Where [Girls Gone Mild] stands out, though, is in its championing of "new role models," girls, like Ella Gunderson and the Girlcotters, who are taking a stand against the excesses of the Sexual Revolution.
"We're at this really interesting moment where the people rebelling against these sexualized messages are actually the young women themselves and I think that's very positive and in doing my research I was really amazed to see that studies have shown that young women are now preferring more wholesome role models," Shalit said.
Shalit said that this movement is occurring at a time when sexualized messages are being increasingly directed towards younger girls through imagery in items such as pre-teen magazines.
From Publisher's Weekly (Week of 7/30/2007):
In this follow-up to her 1999 A Return to Modesty, Shalit takes a second stab at getting the women of the Western world to stand up and take notice of their rampant objectification. Using letters, interviews and various studies, this new book examines current attitudes toward sexuality, "empowerment" and childhood among parents, teachers, kids and the mass media. Like her last, this volume is dense with anecdotes designed to shock and dismay (a mother who tells her 25-year-old that she is going to lose her boyfriend if she doesn't sleep with him, a teacher who tells a 14-year-old that you might as well call it over if you haven't had sex by the third date), and to report on the women and girls who aren't giving into the pressure of hyper-sexualized society—including the harassment they routinely face because of their stand (Shalit answers with admirable bonhomie her own critics, who dismiss her as a backward-thinking " 'professional virgin,' " "a seat that I believe is already occupied by Madonna"). This book takes a hard look from the traditional family-values perspective at how we got to where we are and what progress can be made, and does so with a conviction that will resonate with and bolster many parents. (July)
Mona Charen writes:
American popular culture seems determined to obliterate innocence — even in the crib! But Shalit's critique is not so much prudish as pitying. Her deepest insights concern the new repression that has been imposed on young women. Repression? In this "liberated" age? Read on.
Nancy writes:If you have daughters, toddlers to college age, please read this book. With great depth of understanding and a considerable amount of humor, Shait tackles the really thorny issue of female sexuality today and how young girls are being primed for promiscuity and an unhealthy attitude about their roles in relationships.
Crystal Crimi says:
who criticize others for promoting girls to dress in a less provocative
manner and cool down their sexuality, perhaps need to work on their
self-esteem. Dressing and performing sexual activities because they
come across as cool is a terrible and misleading way to gain
self-assurance, especially when the consequence of doing so can leave
one feeling worthless. Regret can be hard to overcome.
Ms. Shalit for stepping up and taking on the challenge of trying to
promote the traditional good girl – something one would think all
parents and responsible adults would encourage.
Those who criticize others for promoting girls to dress in a less provocative manner and cool down their sexuality, perhaps need to work on their self-esteem. Dressing and performing sexual activities because they come across as cool is a terrible and misleading way to gain self-assurance, especially when the consequence of doing so can leave one feeling worthless. Regret can be hard to overcome.
Good for Ms. Shalit for stepping up and taking on the challenge of trying to promote the traditional good girl – something one would think all parents and responsible adults would encourage.
Alison Motluk writes in the Globe and Mail:
Parents have always had to cope with headstrong teenagers and mismatched mores. But as boomer parents usher their kids through adolescence, some are finding themselves in an unusual position: They're the ones encouraging their children to give sex a whirl, while their cautious teens are preaching chastity. And it's a reversal that many boomers, who came of age in the era of free love, didn't anticipate.
"A new generation of girls are keeping their virginity - for reasons that have nothing to do with religion or adult inspiration," reports the Globe and Mail's Siri Agrell.
While skimpy clothes still dominate the fashion scene, today there's a flip side to girls gone wild.
Call it "girls gone mild" — a building modesty movement among many young women.
"The young girls themselves, they are the ones leading the modesty revolution," said author Wendy Shalit.
Cynthia Hubert writes in the Sacramento Bee:
[...] according to a new book, North America is witnessing the beginnings of a Britney backlash, a return to a less-promiscuous, more innocent time.
Wendy Shalit makes a case for this youth-led rebellion in her book "Girls Gone Mild" (Random House, $25.95, 352 pages).
"The one thing I heard over and over," she writes, "was how desperate they were for a new set of role models," ones who dress less provocatively, mind their manners and insist on being virgins until marriage.
The book "is about my search for an alternative to our 'Girls Gone Wild' culture," she says via e-mail.
"I want to put the focus on girls who are doing great things beyond just flashing their bodies for strangers."
"Sometimes when daughters have a bad-girl mother, they rebel and become good girls. They are constantly embarrassed by me!"
--Ellen Sussman, 52, editor of Bad Girls: 26 Writers Misbehave, on her two daughters, ages 19 and 21 (MORE magazine July/August 2007)